Learning to resolve conflict in your relationship is a process that takes time. Unfortunately, many couples let issues and concerns pile up before finally seeking help. The ideal recommendation is that couples work on nurturing and enriching their relationship “early and often”. However, if you find yourself angry or frustrated with the direction your relationship has gone, you might find counseling more helpful than attempting to resolve conflict on your own. The Wright Place Coaching and Counseling offers relationship workshops as well as couples counseling and coaching to help you learn how to best handle your problems. For now, here are a few tips you can start practicing today.

1. Decide to Make the Effort

Though it may seem daunting at first, deciding to start making an effort to solve one’s problems is a huge step in the right direction. You may find that it is easier than you anticipated and that your partner will be very receptive to your change in attitude. Fostering an atmosphere of trust and respect for each other can really start turning the tide in your relationship.

2. Move Towards Selflessness

When you’re in a relationship, it’s important to prioritize the needs of your partner as opposed to just your own. Only expecting your partner to attend to your needs and do the things that bring you peace and comfort will be problematic. But finding out what your partner desires in you and the relationship and acting on it will create a positive loving foundation you can both build upon.

3. Talk About What You are Feeling

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Conflict resolution in relationships can not and will not happen unless you discuss what is bothering you. This may be difficult if one or both partners are not used to talking about their feelings. Perhaps, it was not modeled or encouraged in their family or maybe the person doesn’t want to feel like they’re whining and complaining. These are simply barriers that will interfere with your ability to become more vulnerable and closer to your partner.

4. Forgiveness

There are many misconceptions about forgiveness that prevent people from exercising this important skill. Yet, fostering an attitude and relationship climate of forgiveness communicates volumes. It lets your partner know that you recognize that they are human and will make mistakes. Some acts may be more difficult to forgive and may require counseling or support to work through it or to decide how to proceed.

5. Do Something Nice for Your Spouse

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Practice a regular habit of doing nice things for your partner. Maybe you can cook a meal for them or offer to give them a foot massage. Find out their love language and do the things that will make your partner feel loved and special. When you are proactive in expressing love and affection, it is easier to address conflict when it arises.

Have Faith in Your Relationship

When you experience conflict in a relationship, and repeatedly, you can become disillusioned. You may start to question the relationship. For some people, this may not be a bad thing because there may be toxic relationship or partner traits surfacing that you don’t want to ignore. But for many other people, it’s very likely that you entered the relationship with expectations that you would just “click” and “work out.” However, the old cliche is indeed true: Relationships take work. 
Apply the tips in this article and contact us today to find out more information about the services we offer for couples. We find that many people enjoy our relationship workshops because they focus on enrichment and learning skills to improve your relationship. People also report that it’s not intimidating and fun being in a room with other couples who have the same desire to have healthy relationships. We look forward to hearing from you!